Love maps

I saw this video recently on Facebook and I got all teary eyed. This couple exhibits deep feelings of love, friendship, and admiration for each other.
https://www.facebook.com/lds.richard.g.scott/videos/655759821182423/
Aren't they the sweetest couple?
I envision that they have spent their entire lives learning to sense each others needs and thinking of each other. They have what Dr John Gottman, author of The Seven Principles for Making a Marriage Work, calls a detailed Love Map.
A love map is what a couple knows about each other. Do you know if your spouse likes dessert right after dinner or would they rather wait? What is their favorite sport? Do you know when their favorite TV show comes on? What about their favorite vacation, book , song, animal? Love maps change as life changes. Life events such as babies have an impact on our love maps. Love maps need to be kept up to date and built upon. A love map is knowing these things and using that information everyday. Love maps help keep us connected to our spouse. When we know and use our love maps then we are much more likely to weather out the storms when trials come.
How does a couple go about keeping their love maps up to date? It begins with friendship: spending time together, talking, enjoying activities together. It is listening to what what your spouse is saying and observing what they do. My husband calls me almost everyday on his way home from work. He asks how my day has been and how the kids are behaving. Occasionally, when he knows I've had a bad day he brings me a Coke. It used to be half Coke and half Cherry Pepsi and then I got hooked on Dirty Cokes and he started bring me those.
Our love maps are constantly changing and to stay current takes observation and staying in touch with our spouse. Love maps helps to increase our love of each other. Then when times of trial come we are more able to weather the storm and support one another, just like the sweet couple in the video.